This post accompanies my previous post on manipulators. One particular piece of information that I find valuable here is a guideline for distinguishing social influence from manipulation. In my view, what qualifies as manipulation is an attempt to restrict another’s sense of free will. Furthermore, as I am a “no means no” kind of person, my interpretation of “[social influence] does not threaten anyone’s health or well-being” extends to influencers’ being able to accept “no” for an answer. Continuing to persist violates the time and psychological space of the one who refused. Finally, to clarify, the “emotional hot buttons” section lists characteristics of individuals who are easier targets for manipulators. I welcome your thoughts on the information presented here. Continue reading
As a break from the topic of technology-driven changes in work-life, let’s turn to a work-related subject that will likely remain intact: difficult people and, specifically, a type of difficult person who generally goes unnoticed and unchallenged – the manipulative helper.
Overtly difficult people are a pain but are easier to spot, evade, and take action against compared to ones wearing the mask of a benevolent helper. Essentially, manipulative “helpers” inflict damage and get away with it because they’re presumed to have good intentions. Recognizing such individuals will help you make informed decisions about who to spend time and energy cultivating professional relationships with and, hopefully, facilitate success in building a quality network.
During the course of blogging about telework and topics related to modern work-life issues, people who’ve recently connected with me have received the impression that I “have it made,” making a living doing what I love. This isn’t the truth, so I’m setting the record straight about my experience with, and understanding of, consulting in the area of facilitating remote work arrangements at organizations. Additionally, as I hinted about undertaking a personal YouTube content creation project in an earlier post, I’ll hereby provide readers with more information about this as I’ll be integrating it as new subject matter in this blog. Continue reading
Here’s a post I’ve been meaning to share as it resonates with me deeply. Those of us who consider ourselves freethinkers and enjoy the process and benefits of honest, spirited debate and conflict have probably, at one time or another, experienced a form of oppression in situations where cultural norms overemphasize social harmony, cooperation, and cohesion. The problem with striving for an atmosphere of perpetual warmth and agreement, as Jane Watson describes, is that great ideas get squashed. Hence, going against conventional wisdom with regard to hiring for cultural fit is especially important for organizations that aim to be innovative. Watson’s post provides a thought-provoking alternative view on what makes a great team, so check it out!
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What a whirlwind at the 2015 HRPA Annual Conference this week! On day one, following three keynotes, 2 sessions, lots of coffee, and two after-parties later, I arrived home with a brain full of ideas and an iPhone full of notes. Here’s my first post from this week’s HRPA Annual Conference 2015:
Why Your Organization Needs More Rebels, Heretics, and Weirdos
Take a second and think about the best team that you have ever been part of. What made the team great? What did it feel like to be part of it? How did the team members interact with one another?
If the team you’re thinking of was the picture of harmony and cooperation, it might be worth questioning your rose-coloured recollections of just how great it actually was. In the session “When Getting Along Doesn’t Equal Results” Nicole Bendaly notes that while harmony and cohesiveness often figure into our…
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When I first started using Pinterest, I thought finding and pinning images would just be a frivolous activity I’d engage in when I’m bored. While I don’t spend a lot of time there, I have found it to be more entertaining than I initially expected. For those who really know how to use it, another potential benefit of using such imaged-based social media tools is that they can be an effective way to find and connect with others who have interests in common and, at the same time, promote oneself or one’s business. I’m more of a recreational user but, for those who’re curious, my boards can be found here. As a forewarning, I’ve somehow managed to amass a large image collection of featherless, baby parrots which some people find freaky… though I think they’re rather cute!
Having found Pinterest to be more interesting and useful than I anticipated, I became curious about Instagram’s potential as a practical tool for networking and promotion. Fortunately, I just found the following guide which offers tips worth thinking about if you’re interested in using Instagram to promote your business or yourself as professional. Have you used Instagram and have tips to share? Feel free to comment and share them! Continue reading
How did your transition back to work after the holidays go? For those who work from home and have yet to take down their holiday decorations, returning to work can pose a greater challenge. In this post, Lisa Duncan, co-founder of Flipside Workspace, briefly describes how an online collaboration platform that includes an immersive virtual environment facilitates separation between home and work as well as prime us, mentally, to go back to work. As an avid gamer, I’ve experienced how rich, virtual environments can transport us into a different world and put us in a completely different mindset. So I think Lisa makes an excellent point about the value 3D virtual environments can offer to remote workers.
Originally posted on Lisa Duncan | Alternative Workstyle Enthusiast:
It’s my first day back after a fabulous and disconnected vacation. I love these times where I get to fully disengage from work – energy, creativity, and inspiration swirl around me giving me months of “work” just to catch up with my thoughts. Only the heartiest of ideas make it through memory and grit into execution, a kind of Darwinian business process.
Today I was excited to get back to work, to catch up with my colleagues and exchange ideas. I was ready…sort of.
You see, I work from home and it’s after New Year’s. Two weeks of fun and festivities means many decorations are still hanging in the house and the onslaught of stuff from a household racing out the door each morning to school or work is still scattered about. So many distractions.
I love that mental separation of “go to work”. I need that mental separation. But where is…
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Following an unexpected hiatus, I’m back just in time to provide the annual WordPress year-end report for my blog. Although I wasn’t as prolific as I was last year, I thought I’d publish the report in case anyone wants to see blog-related information such as what the most popular posts were and, at the same time, show my appreciation to WordPress for providing this service to bloggers.
Now, onto plans for next year. First off, I’d like to affirm that the Flipside Workspace user research project (which I mentioned in my previous post) is still happening. So, be on the lookout for a post that will spell out the details in January and consider participating! Among some other major projects I’ll be undertaking is the launching of my YouTube channel later on in the year. Content-wise, the channel won’t be related to this blog but, when it’s launched, I’ll make some mention of it as an opportunity to connect on interests that go beyond the focus of this blog.
As some of you may have guessed, I’ll be attempting to remake myself professionally. I hope that this undertaking will grant me ample opportunity to learn and share nuggets of information about reinventing yourself as a professional. On that note, I ask my readers, what are your plans for next year? Will you be changing anything? If so, how have you planned to go about it?
The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2014 annual report for this blog.
Here’s an excerpt:
A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was viewed about 4,500 times in 2014. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 4 trips to carry that many people.